Between Goodbye and Letting Go

Pain is inevitable, especially in love. True love always comes with pain. We cannot restrain ourselves from getting hurt. Being hurt when you’re in love only proves that what you are feeling is genuine. 

Oftentimes, we try to escape the harsh reality of life -- we don’t let ourselves see that life is not perfect, that it is not a fairytale, that it doesn’t have a happily ever after, and most especially, we cannot accept the fact that we are getting hurt. Once we feel the hurt, what we first think to do is to move away from it for us not to feel it. Eventually, We are torn from saying goodbye to the one we love and letting go because of that pain in our lives.

Goodbye and letting go are words we use interchangeably. Little did we know that those words have exactly different meanings from each other. There’s a difference between goodbye and letting go.

Goodbye is, “I’ll see you again when I’m ready to hold your hand and when you’re ready to hold mine.”

Goodbye is not as bad as what we think it is. Saying goodbye does not necessarily mean you should part ways permanently with the one you love – it just simply means that you two just need sometime alone to think about things and ready yourselves with what life might bring you in the future. Maybe it’s hard to admit but eventually, there will come a time that you will need to say goodbye in your relationship. Of course it’s hard and painful; but maybe it’s the best thing you can do to save your relationship from scattering into pieces until nothing’s left for the both of you. Time is all that you need to save all the things you’ve built up in the past; and when you’re ready, nothing that life gives you will bring the both of you down because you’re stronger and better than before. If it's meant to be, nothing will ever break and destroy the love and bond that you have created and started. You just have to believe in God's right timing and eventually, everything will fall in their right places.

Letting go is, “I’ll miss your hand. I realized it’s not mine to hold, and I will never hold it again.”

Letting go is one of the hardest things you could ever do in your life, especially when you will let go of the one you love. As the song goes, “Letting go is not an easy task; when smiling feels like I must wear this lonely mask...” True. No one said it was easy. No guaranty of happiness after all. Letting go of a relationship that you thought would last forever is heart-breaking and very hard to accept. There will come a point in your life wherein the only thing you could do is to ask “What happened?” What happened to our promises to each other? What happened to all plans together? What happened to us? Pain will eventually make us not believe in love anymore. But, if letting go is your only choice, what would you do? What if staying in your relationship will only trigger more pain? Letting go means that you have accepted or on your way accepting the fact that you two or not meant to be together. You are making way for better things to come by going on separate ways. You are the brave one who faced the reality of life and love, and there is only one thing to get by with it – through acceptance.

So, what stage are you in?

Will you choose to stay goodbye or should you let go?

Your decision will surely have a big impact in your life somewhere in the future, so choose and decide wisely.